I don’t know that Aristotle actually said this but this is the energy I’m taking into the week.
I’ve been working on my self-discipline for a couple of years now. At one point, right around when I turned 30, I realized I never really got anything done because I wasn’t disciplined enough to stick with it.
It wasn’t anybody else’s fault, though I may have tried to blame them. It was mine.
It’s really easy to start something, look it over and go “this is crap”. It’s easy to walk away from things that are harder than you thought they would be.
Modern day humanity is all about the convenience and there’s nothing more convenient than quitting. ( Note: There are valid times to quit. That’s not what I’m talking about here.)
A question I learned to ask myself is simple. It’s “what does this cost you?” Or “what is this costing you?”
It’s a question that aims for the heart of the issue. If you’re tolerating and settling then what are you missing out on?
Maybe it also plays off our collective FOMO (fear of missing out).
Either way, when I began asking myself and really digging into the answers I found a lot of my failures had to do with my lack of self-discipline.
I never finished a story or a book. I never invested in myself through making sure I worked out. I never truly made creativity into my career.
There were reasons for all of these but they all boiled down my starting and stopping once something became difficult. As a result I didn’t trust myself to follow through on the things I wanted to do. In my mind it was better to just daydream about them instead.
So this week I want to ask you, what are you tolerating or settling for in your life? What is that costing you?
Let’s talk about energy.
We all possess it, manipulate it and even desire it.
Energy isn’t inherently good or bad but our perceptions can color the energy we’re receiving and putting back out.
For example, you feel down, stuck, the world is against you … that becomes the energy you exude and in turn the energy you attract back to you.
Being at a low energy shifts our perspective to the more negative things in life. There can be plenty of good but at a low energy there’s a higher chance you miss it or perceive it as not good.
My coaching is about helping one raise that energy level. A coach can guide you through negative beliefs that affect your perception and help you create new beliefs that support a higher energy level.
This is one of the things that has fascinated me about coaching because it’s something I have seen play out in myself and others.
I also think it’s important to recognize that you have to do the work in these situations. Sitting around waiting for an improvement to just fall into your lap does not work. Additionally, if you perceive most things as negative then you’re less likely to dive in and do the work necessary to get what you want.
You’re far more invested in a positive outcome when you have a positive energy level and outlook to support it.
We have to take tangible steps towards raising our energy and getting the things we truly desire in life.
Coaching brings this full circle by allowing me to help others do the work which I find amazingly fulfilling. It gives me the tools needed to bring my “hippie energy” mindset into a realm of using it to concretely help others.
WordPress Daily Prompt – Focused
I’ve been sitting here,
But the rapping of the clock
Reminds me of the way you knock
When you lean on my door while
Stirring my soul with your chains.
A thick boiling concoction of self loathing
Heaving this way and that with an evil all its own
Threatening to tear holes straight through
Letting all the light bleed out.
You give it a siren song,
A melody so sweet,
I can’t help but feel at peace.
Meanwhile over on the collaboration blog … my blog is now up!
The Perfectly Imperfect Bunch
Write for Yourself by Nitesh
Why Write? by Grabbety
It Comes with the Territory by Kelley
We’ll have more from more amazing collaborators soon!