That’s Not The Universe

The law of attraction is kind of bogus.

I said what I said.

It’s not that I don’t believe people can create their own lives and destinies. I do.

What the law of attraction attempts to do is move people into energy or the perception of creation. It encourages you to change your thought patterns, make your wording more intentional, and ask for what you truly want.

That’s not the universe though, that’s you.

Everything about our realities is based on our perceptions and these perceptions change, sometimes from moment to moment.

When you’re angry, you see conflict. When you’re scared, everything can be a threat. When you’re blissful, everything you perceive is through that state of bliss.

These things don’t depend on the universe providing, they depend on our awareness and our perception.

An example, if you are angry and frustrated, perhaps things have gone sideways at work, you will be more combative because you are, at that moment, perceiving everything through your anger and frustration. Jenny didn’t mean to piss you off more, she was just trying to offer you a mint but when we are existing in that state we see conflict everywhere.

In the same vein, when you are existing that perception of creation you see opportunity. You are more willing to follow those opportunities and do what’s needed to capitalize on them. You essentially follow, ask for, and create exactly what you want.

The law of attraction teaches us, in a roundabout way, to adjust our thoughts, perceptions, and energy but it attributes our successes and failures to a large, mysterious entity – “the universe” – and places undue pressure on the nature of our thoughts.

Why didn’t you receive the abundance you said you wanted? Maybe your thoughts were wrong. Maybe the timing was wrong. Maybe you just didn’t want it hard enough. Did you remember to chant your wants in present tense over and over?

A whole industry exists around this.

There is value in actively learning the power of our words, thoughts, and perceptions. There is also value in recognizing the work we have to do and attributing that where it truly belongs, to ourselves.

The law of attraction attempts to teach this but does so in such a removed way that people don’t truly become aware of their perceptions. Since success is attributed to the universe providing people don’t recognize how their actions and perceptions can change as a result of this new way of thinking.

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The Art of Subtraction

Here’s what I’m taking into this week.

Less is more.

Often I see people add.

At work, unending steps and processes are added to combat problem areas. In writing, we add words, characters, even whole plot lines that only serve temporary purposes and don’t move the story forward.

Something well placed can add a lot, no matter what you’re working on.

But I’ve found that we frequently add and add and add … until things are so bloated they become unmanageable.

We do this in our work, in our creative efforts and in our lives in general.

It’s been found that when we’re under extra cognitive load or when we aren’t reminded that taking something away can be an option, we’re much more likely to add.

It’s also thought that this could have something to do with maintaining norms as it’s considered less destructive to add something new rather than taking something away.

This is your reminder that subtraction is an option.

This week I’m making it my goal to actively consider the idea of reducing instead of adding.

How often do you find yourself considering taking away things instead of adding them? What in your life could benefit from this idea of less is more?

Source: https://www.sciencealert.com/here-s-why-our-brains-always-want-to-solve-problems-by-adding-not-taking-away

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What is Coaching?

I’ve been writing about coaching lately but I haven’t really explained what coaching is.

I’ve found that people have very different definitions of coaching. In my case coaching is the process of guiding someone to the answers they have within themselves and helping them to raise their awareness around their own energy.

For example, you will be less invested in doing the work towards a goal if you have an overall negative outlook and energy around that goal. Coaching facilitates exploring if your goal is truly what you want, raising your energy and outlook and also setting manageable steps towards the goal you wish to achieve.

It’s something often overlooked. We have the answers to our own questions/problems/desires. Sometimes we’re scared of them. Sometimes we can’t quite connect the dots between them. Sometimes we have to dig for them. Coaching facilitates those processes.

For me, coaching is about what you want and how to help you get there. It focuses on asking questions that are thought provoking and meant to encourage your inner exploration but also on goal setting and accountability.

In talking to the community at large about coaching and what someone needs and wants creatively from a coach and coaching relationship, I’ve been given a lot of good points.

Now I’m asking you guys!

If you were to hire a coach to help you creatively, whether it’s writing, another creative endeavor or bringing creative thought/processes into your job or life, what are some things you would want to be coached on. What qualities would you look for in a coach?

Energy – An Intro

Let’s talk about energy. 

We all possess it, manipulate it and even desire it. 

Energy isn’t inherently good or bad but our perceptions can color the energy we’re receiving and putting back out.

For example, you feel down, stuck, the world is against you … that becomes the energy you exude and in turn the energy you attract back to you. 

Being at a low energy shifts our perspective to the more negative things in life. There can be plenty of good but at a low energy there’s a higher chance you miss it or perceive it as not good.

My coaching is about helping one raise that energy level. A coach can guide you through negative beliefs that affect your perception and help you create new beliefs that support a higher energy level. 

This is one of the things that has fascinated me about coaching because it’s something I have seen play out in myself and others. 

I also think it’s important to recognize that you have to do the work in these situations. Sitting around waiting for an improvement to just fall into your lap does not work. Additionally, if you perceive most things as negative then you’re less likely to dive in and do the work necessary to get what you want.

You’re far more invested in a positive outcome when you have a positive energy level and outlook to support it.

We have to take tangible steps towards raising our energy and getting the things we truly desire in life.

Coaching brings this full circle by allowing me to help others do the work which I find amazingly fulfilling. It gives me the tools needed to bring my “hippie energy” mindset into a realm of using it to concretely help others.