I’ve been asking myself this a lot lately because I haven’t felt that I’m actually good at anything. In search of answers I took to Dr. Google, why not? My searching was promptly rewarded with an article asking what skills you developed as a child or throughout your life. My initial response was comprised of things like “I like to write,” but the article encouraged me to dig deeper. It wanted to find things that were developed out of necessity but never really considered in the context of “I’m good at that.”
It aligns with something else I’ve been attempting lately. I wake up every day and I find things that I’m proud of, things that I like or things that I’m good at. I give myself a little mantra and pep talk and go on with my day.
These things are important to me because I was raised to have practically no self-esteem. I was bullied in school, bullied at home; when I was younger I felt completely void. As far as I was concerned I was safe nowhere and no one would care if I wasn’t there anymore.
That doesn’t translate into the healthiest adulthood. Thinking of skills I learned out of necessity in childhood I often myself thinking more of weaknesses.
Giving it some deeper thought I found the things I thought were weaknesses or completely useless are worth something.
I’m extremely resilient. I’ve spent my life constantly adjusting to changing rules and expectations. As a result, I can change pace, path, vision in an instant and remain calm in the middle of it. I never realized my resilience was a skill worth noting until I joined a job where mental gymnastics and constant changes of pace were a requirement every second of the day.
I can cook. Cooking is a stress reliever for me. I can take ingredients laying around in the pantry and turn them into something palatable easily. I learned to cook early in life, starting with frozen foods thrown into the oven for my family dinner (kitchen 101!) By middle school I understood the concepts of cooking and flavor well enough to improvise (kitchen creative for beginners!).
When I put more thought into it I clearly see where these are skills to celebrate but the key is reminding myself to own them and celebrate them.
What are your strengths? Do you have skills you’ve learned throughout life that you haven’t normally considered?
They say watched pots never boil but they never seem to understand the thousand beats per second intricacies shivering between bubbles as they roil at the reigns. Everything escaping in momentary gasps, steaming rasps which they can never hear. Careful beads threading paths down silken plated skins, the cracking only carefully begins. They’ve never felt the build, the screaming head, which only leads them with flustered cheeks and dry lips to look away.
They say watched pots never boil but they’ve never sunk into dewy grass. A failed experiment in conditioning for even the dogs to turn away.