I don’t know that Aristotle actually said this but this is the energy I’m taking into the week.
I’ve been working on my self-discipline for a couple of years now. At one point, right around when I turned 30, I realized I never really got anything done because I wasn’t disciplined enough to stick with it.
It wasn’t anybody else’s fault, though I may have tried to blame them. It was mine.
It’s really easy to start something, look it over and go “this is crap”. It’s easy to walk away from things that are harder than you thought they would be.
Modern day humanity is all about the convenience and there’s nothing more convenient than quitting. ( Note: There are valid times to quit. That’s not what I’m talking about here.)
A question I learned to ask myself is simple. It’s “what does this cost you?” Or “what is this costing you?”
It’s a question that aims for the heart of the issue. If you’re tolerating and settling then what are you missing out on?
Maybe it also plays off our collective FOMO (fear of missing out).
Either way, when I began asking myself and really digging into the answers I found a lot of my failures had to do with my lack of self-discipline.
I never finished a story or a book. I never invested in myself through making sure I worked out. I never truly made creativity into my career.
There were reasons for all of these but they all boiled down my starting and stopping once something became difficult. As a result I didn’t trust myself to follow through on the things I wanted to do. In my mind it was better to just daydream about them instead.
So this week I want to ask you, what are you tolerating or settling for in your life? What is that costing you?
Every action we take ripples outward from ourselves, affecting other areas of our lives.
In this sense the idea of karma, or energy attracting like energy, continues to play out in a more physical way.
How do we begin truly recognizing the impact of our actions?
It’s easy to say but practicing momentary mindfulness around the actions we take and words we speak can be difficult.
One of the questions I ask myself before taking action is “is this worth it?”
This is a simple question that can open so many doors. It can be the deciding factor between working a little more and taking some family time. It can also help reveal where your priorities are and lead you to dig deeper on why you have the priorities you have.
This is especially helpful if you’ve been feeling out of alignment with who you are or want to be.
Tell me what other ways you use to judge your actions and words beforehand. How often do you notice yourself practicing this type of momentary mindfulness?
I’ve been writing about coaching lately but I haven’t really explained what coaching is.
I’ve found that people have very different definitions of coaching. In my case coaching is the process of guiding someone to the answers they have within themselves and helping them to raise their awareness around their own energy.
For example, you will be less invested in doing the work towards a goal if you have an overall negative outlook and energy around that goal. Coaching facilitates exploring if your goal is truly what you want, raising your energy and outlook and also setting manageable steps towards the goal you wish to achieve.
It’s something often overlooked. We have the answers to our own questions/problems/desires. Sometimes we’re scared of them. Sometimes we can’t quite connect the dots between them. Sometimes we have to dig for them. Coaching facilitates those processes.
For me, coaching is about what you want and how to help you get there. It focuses on asking questions that are thought provoking and meant to encourage your inner exploration but also on goal setting and accountability.
In talking to the community at large about coaching and what someone needs and wants creatively from a coach and coaching relationship, I’ve been given a lot of good points.
Now I’m asking you guys!
If you were to hire a coach to help you creatively, whether it’s writing, another creative endeavor or bringing creative thought/processes into your job or life, what are some things you would want to be coached on. What qualities would you look for in a coach?
We all possess it, manipulate it and even desire it.
Energy isn’t inherently good or bad but our perceptions can color the energy we’re receiving and putting back out.
For example, you feel down, stuck, the world is against you … that becomes the energy you exude and in turn the energy you attract back to you.
Being at a low energy shifts our perspective to the more negative things in life. There can be plenty of good but at a low energy there’s a higher chance you miss it or perceive it as not good.
My coaching is about helping one raise that energy level. A coach can guide you through negative beliefs that affect your perception and help you create new beliefs that support a higher energy level.
This is one of the things that has fascinated me about coaching because it’s something I have seen play out in myself and others.
I also think it’s important to recognize that you have to do the work in these situations. Sitting around waiting for an improvement to just fall into your lap does not work. Additionally, if you perceive most things as negative then you’re less likely to dive in and do the work necessary to get what you want.
You’re far more invested in a positive outcome when you have a positive energy level and outlook to support it.
We have to take tangible steps towards raising our energy and getting the things we truly desire in life.
Coaching brings this full circle by allowing me to help others do the work which I find amazingly fulfilling. It gives me the tools needed to bring my “hippie energy” mindset into a realm of using it to concretely help others.